This question asks by so many, and to be honest it is just relative to life. Not a spiritual thing, male or female thing, just why me. Many in life face daunting challenges. Things beyond our control, things we don’t understand things beyond our comprehension. Why do these things come, to be honest I don’t know. Maybe it’s in life’s plan not given the reason for us to understand, just in our lives intact as we move forward.
Men and women alike face this truth no matter what we do. It always reverts back to “why me.” Good or bad sometimes without reason or knowledge beyond human view, it’s just life as we know. So “Why me.” I ask you this question does it really matter to know “why me.”
Being in control won’t change the outcome you see, so really does it matter, “why me.” Why do so many struggle asking this simple question, yet its weight denotes a multiplicity of answer.
When having a stressful day, or when a lot of things go wrong — perhaps seriously wrong — all at one time, many people ask themselves the question, “Why me?” Or, “Why is this happening?” To me, the interesting thing about the question is not the question itself. The question is: To whom or what are you addressing the question? In other words: Who are you asking?
In my experience, people usually answer, “God.” Or, if they’re only semi-religious or agnostic, as many people are, they’ll simply say, “I’m asking some kind of God-like entity. Or maybe the universe.”
In nonreligious, psychological and philosophical terms, what people usually mean by their answer to this question is: “I’m asking reality, or existence.”
Of course, however understandable a question this may be when under stress or duress, it really doesn’t make a whole lot of sense. The universe — or all of existence — does not have a will and consciousness of its own. There is no celestial entity dividing up and handing out good days and bad days, good fortune and bad fortune. None of it is personal.
While it is certainly true that some things happen outside of our control, it doesn’t follow that somebody is responsible for those things happening. Yet our minds, especially under stress and duress, seek out answers. It’s reasonable to seek out answers, but it’s important that we ask questions for which there’s an answer.
This question seems to say that one is in a position to where there is no help or in need of attention from others who do not have the ability to answer such a question. Instead one should try to shift their thinking and reactions away from the victim-oriented mindset of “Why me?” towards solutions: “What makes the most sense to do next?”
Answering this question is not always easy or obvious; but it’s the only question you (or anyone) is capable of answering.
In conclusion instead of “why me,” what can I do to change my situation finding a solution that removes the position of stagnation, advancing or moving in a direction that produces character conducive with moving forwards. Put everything in the hands of God…
Robert Johnson
